Relationship Hacks for Creating Depth
This post will explore how to begin to create depth in your relationship.
“Staying comfortable will begin to get uncomfortable. Unbearably uncomfortable.”
Depth in your relationship has to be something that you want more than current, surface level intimacy.
No matter your relational status.
It’s a decision, first.
Of which you want (depth or surface level), most. Both can’t be had at once, it’s an either or.
Then the work begins when you stop addressing anything outside of you as your ‘go to’ blame defense mechanism and instead address your own thought patterns (that are blocking that intimacy).
Staying comfortable will begin to get uncomfortable.
Unbearably uncomfortable.
And, getting uncomfortable will begin to get more comfortable, with repetition.
Becoming ‘Relationally fit’ starts with you.
It’s built in the repetitions.
It’s showing up even when you don’t ‘feel like it.’
It’s leaning into higher resistance and knowing resilience is on the other side.
Choosing thoughts that serve
It’s created the more intimately that you listen to YOUR needs, listen to what comes up, and continuously nurture the relationship with yourself.
It takes intentionality and choosing to receive thoughts that serve the intimacy that you’re co-creating.
Reflect on thoughts that aren’t creating what you’re after.
Decide when to let go of those outdated thoughts that aren’t serving the relationship that you really want.
I can help you create that relationship (with you) that you really want, faster. Your romantic intimacy will just be the epic byproduct of that.
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Healing self sabotaging behaviors
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