Why perfectionism and people pleasing are just an illusion
This post will explore why perfectionism and people pleasing don’t work and what to do about it instead.
“Perfectionism is an illusion. People pleasing is too.”
The greatest project that you’ll ever work on, is you.
And, its ripple effect is unmatched.
It’s LITERALLY creating a ‘love legacy’ that will outlive you (I feel so passionately about this, that it was in our wedding vows).
Working on you may seem like an afterthought, like something you can push to the backburner and ‘get to’ once your life settles down.
But, let’s look at it differently.
The work you decide to do now, will impact generations to come. How you take care of you will be what your kids emulate. It will set the standard.
Then, that same standard will be what they use for their own parenting, and their kids use for their parenting, etc.
And it keeps going and going.
If this is the outcome (how fun!) then what is preventing the greatest project of your life, to begin?
2 areas I see the most that are blockers are:
Perfectionism
People Pleasing
And, these two areas are intertwined. Keeping up with unrealistic expectations as a wife, mother, career woman, friend, daughter makes you feel pressure to say yes to all of the things, in order to be liked by all the people AND seen as keeping it all together, perfectly.
One of the greatest things we will do together, is learn to say ‘no’ without guilt and make sure that YOU (as your greatest project) matter more than all of the other things you say yes to.
Perfectionism is an illusion.
People pleasing is too.
Accountability, support, a hybrid of tough love & compassionate coaching to challenge your current patterns (that are exhausting you) is my job.
Project YOU awaits. Let’s connect.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
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