Why worrying your way to a goal is NOT working (and what to do about it!)
This post will explain why choosing peace rather than choosing worry will help you reach your goals faster (and how to do it!)
“WORRYING your way to the goal, is simply making the goal process more daunting, draining, & dramatic. Aka LESS fun.”
Creating peace inside the process is the real goal, not just an
afterthought once you reach the goal.
As hard as this is to truly believe, peace will actually help you reach the goal, faster.
Peace is always a choice.
Peace is always your responsibility.
Getting to Peace is often a process, too.
Creating inner peace
Killing yourself to reach your goal is only going to cause a serious case of burnout, exhaustion, and unnecessary inner drama along the way.
Creating inner peace with the process (while knowing it’s all happening) AND intentionally having fun while doing it is highly underrated, under valued, and under preached.
If you’re anything like me, my brain finds security in WORRYING. It literally can go down this thought pattern that if WE worry MORE, THEN we’ll be more in ‘control’ ‘safe’ & ‘more prepared’ for alllllllll the what ifs.
Yet, worry is counterproductive. Worry literally lowers your ability to critically think at a higher level.
There is NO WAY to be prepared for all the what ifs in life…literally, ZERO chance.
And, logistically, I know this, but my primitive brain forgets, so I have to gently remind it that WORRYING AHEAD OF TIME IS A WASTE (and actually drains the brain for future problem solving at a higher level).
WORRYING your way to the goal, is simply making the goal process more daunting, draining, & dramatic. Aka LESS fun.
I once heard “it’s hard to be of service when you’re constantly in survival.” This is a prime example of your brain in survival mode (when it’s constantly worrying).
Reminding your brain that you can’t worry yourself to success is a great reminder to compassionately & repeatedly redirect your brain, often.
Catching your brain ‘in the act of worry’ is a great awareness hack that can make you pause & remind yourself that YOU are now responsible for continuing to worry or choosing to stop.
Worry, may be your security blanket, too. It was mine.
But, does it truly keep you safe, OR does it actually lessen your future ability to think at a higher level when perceived danger actually becomes present?
Worrying steals your presence by taking you to the future (which will impact your partnership, performance, & parenting). Bringing yourself back to the presence will breathe life back into those areas.
I can help you lessen the worry wart part of you, with compassion, while making space for more critical thinking to occur.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
Click to schedule a life coaching consultation with Meg.
