But, do YOU like you?
This post will explain how your addiction to people pleasing is leaving you broken, depleted, and craving more.
“The people pleasing plague is robbing you of deeper love, for: you, your romantic relationship, to that of your kids, extended family, and friends.”
But, do YOU like you?
(***I’m not even getting to love, just yet)
Energy is exhausted, wasted, or even freely given to people that don’t matter as much as you do. (if this triggered you, stay with me)
Too bold, maybe?
But when you know that the extent to which your capacity to love others comes from the extent to which you love yourself, boldness is in order.
The people pleasing plague is robbing you of deeper love, for: you, your romantic relationship, to that of your kids, extended family, and friends.
Your presence and peace are two non-negotiable secret ingredients to deeper intimacy in all facets of life.
Without it, life can be good, but not extraordinary.
Your kids want a present & peaceful mom more than a mom perfecting things that don’t matter.
Your partner wants connected, physical intimacy without feeling like they’re just another checked off box on your endless to-do list.
Your clients, co-workers, patients, colleagues want a more engaged and connected leader/healer/expert/coach to navigate through problems, together.
Self care/self love gets thrown around as an external remedy, with manicures, pedicures, massages, or shopping as the things that are going to fix all the internal issues.
And it can help, temporarily, until it doesn’t.
What’s keeping you from liking yourself?
Instead, after a while, you’re still stuck, still stressed out, still forgetting to make your mental space a priority.
The evolved self care/self love can look like:
Saying ‘no’ when you feel like you ‘should’ say ‘yes’
Making sure YOU like you, before you worry about if someone else likes you
Blocking out some time in your schedule, for you, with zero guilt attached
Do you feel like you have to earn the permission to take care of yourself?
To love you?
OR can you just receive that permission, now and then decide to just start the messy, foreign journey back to simply liking you?
Then, we’ll tackle loving you.
This is the work that will transform your entire life, and it starts with you. It doesn’t have to be hard, overwhelming, and exhausting.
I can be fun, freeing, simple, and super duper fulfilling.
Healing self sabotaging behaviors
ABOUT THE AUTHOR I’m Meg Smithson and I remember vividly the heartache, distress, and agony that self sabotaging behaviors caused me. Between eating disorders, anxiety, major self doubt, and constant imbalance, I couldn’t seem to live the fulfilling life I imagined.
If you are currently dealing with this, I get it & know exactly how you feel.
I spent a decade of heartache striving to fit the elusive mold of what mainstream considered “perfect” all while trying to figure out why I was put on this earth.
I learned to listen to what I needed…
…not what others expected of me. Gradually, I felt freedom like I had never imagined I could.
What does a relationship coach do?
Now, I teach women to find that freedom, too, by helping them create the relationship that they really want, faster by first healing their attachment to shame, people pleasing, & perfectionism.
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Meg Smithson, Life Coach
Meg coaches women by identifying areas of self sabotage, helping them break up with the shame that usually accompanies that, and then shows them how to set boundaries around the emerging 2.0 version they want to become, and live that life, unapologetically.
Click to schedule a life coaching consultation with Meg.
